would you go to a cafe to talk about death? About things like where you want to die, what you want to happen to your body, words on your gravestone if you are having one and all that. I would, and I wish there had been one around when Rosie was alive. Because it would have made it all seem a lot more normal. Momentous and unwelcome, still, but more normal. It would have saved that faff with the coffin. Remember that??
and there are people called death doulas. People who accompany people who are dying to help them have a good death. A bit like the birth ones but the opposite. Except it’s not so opposite because birth and death are very closely connected. I think that’s a good idea too. Because you don’t actually know what you are doing when someone is dying. and reading up on it doesn’t work.
I came across these two things yesterday – at least, I had heard about death cafés before but not the doulas. We’ve been walking the TKOE dog around Iron Age hill fort country this morning in sight of Rosie’s graveyard. So it’s all felt very connected – spring and the cycle of life. Comforting really.
Thank you to Alessandra and Laura for your TKOE donations this week. Really nice to get that unexpectedly.
i gave blood too – it was GUSHING this time and I’m definitely not anaemic anymore. So the bloodometer is at 5 so far. Has anyone else donated this year? We need to keep count so we can be proud of what TKOE and Team Kilburn has done
I’ve also joined the stem cell register. You feel all medical when you get the testing kit and the emails are very exciting. So even if you don’t match anyone in the whole world, you get a warm Glow. Imagine if you did match? It’s really easy to join as well. Should we have a TKOE stemcellometer as well?