Hmm. Have been wanting to post this for a while. But I had to get over feeling incandescently angry about it first. Because I don’t blame the person for saying it, really. A little while ago, I met someone who I hadn’t seen for ages. They’d not heard about Rosie, so had to suffer the embarrassment of asking after her and me telling them what had happened. All well and good. It happens. But then they said – and I’m sure this was just because they were feeling awkward and uncomfortable – ‘well, time is a great healer. I’m sure you’ll get over it.’
And I have felt really angry about it ever since. Not all the time. I managed to reach a stage where when I was driving, I could occasionally allow myself to remember and survey what had been said from several different angles. And then I decided I was angry partly because not only will we never get over it, because things can’t go back as they were but neither do I want us to get over it. Accomodate it, yes. Be sad but not brood over it, yes. Be happy and do things, yes. But not get over it. Because that would be like forgetting.
So, never, ever tell someone they’ll get over it.
Now I’ve got that off my chest, finally, two other things. The first is that Cal is definitely having an off season trampolining wise. He didn’t fall over. But he did forget one of his jumps in the first round – he NEVER does that. And then he got really giggly on the second round, so his arms and legs were all over the place. He landed on one foot instead of two, and generally looked like he was on a bouncy castle. Hey ho.
And last of all, do bloodometer donations only count if they are made by new donors and people returning after a long gap? Or can we count regular donations too? Or do we set up another count?